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Get Out of Victim Mode


It's so great to have you here again, diving into the depths of our intuition and untangling those knots of self-doubt. 

Today, let's talk about something that's come up a lot lately and a phenomenon (you totally sang the song in your head, didn’t you? I knew I liked you for some reason!) that we all experience in our human lives: victim mode. 

We all have those moments when we slip into it when life's challenges start feeling like they're happening to us instead of just happening. 

But here's the thing: it's okay. 

Victim mode has been given a bad rap, but it's just part of your wiring. It's not about blaming yourselves for feeling that way; it's about recognizing when you’re in it and choosing to shift out of it.

I recently worked with a client who was struggling with this, which inspired me to write. We dove into her tendency to slip into victim mode, and as we talked, I had to empathize. 

Let's face it—we've all been there. But what struck me was how our conversation opened up a space for honesty and growth. Coaching is all about that, but it still amazes my heart and soul when vulnerability happens, and I am trusted to guide my client through it. 

We talked about how victim mode isn't about being an actual victim of circumstances, which may have happened in the past but isn’t true now.  It’s about getting stuck in a mindset of self-pity and blame. And let me tell you, it's a draining place to be. But the beauty of it is that we have the power to shift out of it.

It's all about awareness, recognizing when we're slipping into that mode, and choosing to step out of it. 

And yeah, it can be challenging. It takes practice and patience. But with each step we take, we reclaim more of our power, and it happens less and less over time. 

I shared with my client some practical steps to overcome victim mode, such as practicing empathy for ourselves and others and taking conscious action toward self-command. One step is stopping when the voice of the victim shows up, don’t judge it; nudge it. :) 

Ultimately, it's about rewiring your brain and creating lives that align with your deepest desires.

So here's to recognizing your power, stepping out of victim mode, and embracing life with open arms. 

You've got this.

Until next time,


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