Several times in my life, I resented people saying I was so strong. I was resilient; I was handed more than my share of crap in a short period of time. All of this was true, but the reflection of it out loud, with more than a little bit of sympathy, made me nutty.
I didn’t want to be strong. I certainly didn’t want to be resilient; I didn’t want to be an example of living through hard times because all those meant I had to endure difficulties, and I just wanted a freaking break!
I’ve come to appreciate all of these attributes of myself, though. It took processing the pain of relationships that I had to let go of and the grief of being a widow, compounded by being the local medium on display, and how I processed my pain or didn’t, as was the case often.
It has only been in the last few years that I have allowed myself to appreciate the level of lifting that was going on during those times.
We all go through challenging times when resilience is required. When “suck it up, buttercup” is necessary for short periods and when we are utterly confused by our emotions. It is part and parcel of being human, and it is ok.
It is ok not to know what to do. It is ok to hurt to your core and not know how you will go on (Insert Titanic song here as background music).
It is ok to admit that having someone croak sucks and that being a person who, with her whole essence, believes in the eternal soul life doesn’t make it any easier, as was suggested often from mostly well-meaning people and some a*sholes.
None of us get a pass on hurt, disappointment, frustration, or pain. We just don’t. We must feel these things also to feel and know the beauty of a quiet summer day, the preciousness of a baby or puppy if babies aren’t your thing, or when that gluten-free bread you’ve been working on for months finally comes out perfectly.
I’ve been talking about the directions of the compass and how I use that in my coaching. Well, my friend, that came about because I felt directionless and had to create a way to move forward when I felt lost. The fact that it has helped hundreds of people in the process is a very cool thing too.
In this week’s podcast, I'll dive into the fourth compass direction: the East, which represents the direction of action—elevating one's frequency and using all the other directions to feel inspired.
Join me on this exciting journey as I share valuable insights on cultivating a proactive mindset, fostering resiliency, and wholeheartedly embracing your emotions and then turning them into action.
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